Sunday, April 12, 2009

New Beginnings

There is just too much going on right now it's almost overwhelming. I feel great, new beginnings and all that. I'm actually back down to my pre-baby size just about. My tummy is gone, and I'm fitting into my old clothes again. Feels great honestly. Can't wait to start working out again.

My family is going through some rough stuff right now, and they too will be having some new beginnings soon. My parents are going through a messy break up right now. It's having more of an effect on me than I thought it would. It's not what you think. I honestly want them to break up I've been telling them for years that they need to break up, it's the truth everyone in that house is completely miserable. I just thought that since I moved out years ago I was beyond all this stuff. But everything is crazy and they're bringing back memories and it's all just a lot to deal with.

My parents are both trash talking each other to me, and then worrying that the other is trash talking. My brother is depressed and angry (what else is new) way worse than before though. I went over there for easter tonight and I held out my arms for a hug as I usually do (I was like 3 feet away from him, nowhere near his proverbial personal space bubble) and he walked over and slapped my arm down. His greeting to me was an angry grunt. Like what did I do? Apparently something bad.

I can't wait until this whole thing is over and done with, and hopefully it won't get as messy as it looks like it will.. There is talk of my dad trying to fight my mom for the house, and him calling a lawyer to get her charged with tax fraud or some crap. Really I feel like I'm being torn in two. I love them both. It's like I have to take sides. I don't know what to do. I guess the same thing I've been doing a lot lately, meditating.


Karen said...

The best thing (if you can stick to your guns) may be to just tell each of them that you love them both and because of that you've decided to not listen to the trash talk. They are free to talk about anything else, including their own feelings about the split, but when the conversation becomes an attack on the other person you will end the call or visit and talk to them later. If you do it, make sure that each one knows that you won't let the other trash talk either, so that it's not Mom can't talk about Dad, but Dad and I are talking about Mom. Just say that while you know they need to split, you also know that you love them both and you will no longer tolerate anyone talking trash about someone you love.

My husband went through something similar with an aunt and uncle and he was able to not take sides and not listen to them insulting each other, but he did have to end quite a few phone calls and visits before they realized he was serious. He now has a good relationship with each of them.

Congrats on getting rid of the baby weight. It's awesome that you're into your old clothes! And I hope you're able to figure out how to handle your brother. I think he would drive me crazy.

Stacie said...

Congrats on losing the baby weight. I am envious since I have been working on it for 10 months with not much luck.

I like Karen's advice about your parents and their split.

Good luck with that. I hope things get better for you. Sound slike you have enough going on in your life as it is.

Ya Chun said...

I hate it when parents put their kids in the middle (no matter their age)

let them deal with their crap - you have enough on your plate!

Hang up on them if you have to - don't listen to their trash talk. I have hung up on my parents pletny of times.

Amy said...

I'm in the same place. It just sucks. (((hugs)))