Tuesday, May 12, 2009

I Meditated The Baby

Do you ever have those moments where you forget something important (and possibly shitty) for just a second, and then you feel like an ass? Today I had one of those moments. I was sitting there with N watching (an old school) mi.ckey mou.se movie. And the thought occured to me I can't wait for Skyler to watch Pirates of The Carribbean and decide he wants to be a pirate, and I thought about him imitating things he sees, and then "oh yeah my kid is f*cking blind" popped into my head. Riiiight forgot about that. /sigh. It's absolutely not his fault and I'm not angry about it, I'm more frustrated with myself for forgetting and thinking about him doing normal things like every other kid. Yes sometimes I have those moments. I think every special needs parent does occasionally. And of course he will still watch these movies with me even if he can't exactly see much more than a bright colourful blur, that's fine, I'm sure he'll imitate it by repeating what they say or something.

In happier news, Skyler's sleep schedule has been so messed up since Mother's Day that he hasn't been napping properly and spent the entire morning crying. How is that happy news? Well I did something you won't believe, and that's okay because I know it worked. He just wouldn't stop this morning, I did everything, fed him (numerous times) changed his diaper, played with him, sang to him, walked him around, everything that normally works.

N was asleep upstairs when I finally couldn't take it anymore, I put him down in his carseat (since it was almost lunch time and C was picking us up in about 15 mins.) and I gently took his feet into my hands and I meditated. (Meditation always helps me calm down when I'm upset or frustrated) And his crying quickly turned to quiet whimpering and then ceased completely. I opened my eyes and he was smiling at me. I sat like that for a bit with him, then I had to bring him upstairs to wait for my boss to get home. He started crying again when I got him upstairs. So I did it again, sat down on the floor in front of him said nothing, held his feet and meditated. He stopped crying immediately and finally fell fast asleep. He's still asleep now. Now if that isn't some sort of awesome magick I don't know what is. C asked how I managed to calm him down, I said "I meditated the baby."

The thing is I had been holding him before and touching him gently while I tried to comfort him and it didn't do anything, but once I started meditating while touching him he just calmed down. Whatever I did it worked and I'm glad, because I was getting rather exhausted with the crying. Of course my response to that kind of thing (babies being upset, crying nonstop) is to calm myself down completely. Because I feel like how can someone else calm down if I am frantic. Enter the meditation, and I figured well if I'm going to meditate why not try meditating with him. Anyway, thought I'd share that super cool discovery with you. Maybe it will help someone else out, and hey even if you can't get the baby to calm down maybe you can calm yourself down and that always helps!

Skyler after a diaper change in his crib (his overalls are still undone cause I just changed him)


Stacie said...

Hey, whatever works! Glad you found something to calm him when he won't stop crying.

I swear, he just gets cuter and cuter. His looks seem to be changing already.

Ya Chun said...

hey you're the baby whisperer!

Verna said...

Don't beat yourself up, he is so cute.

Ever hear of foot reflexology? It works on little ones too. Very gently you held his feet and probably rubbed a bit too as you did it. I love to have mine reflexed, and my instructor who taught me (who lives in Fort Wayne, Indiana) works on little feet. Yes, they bring babies to her so she can reflex their feet. She stated--- anytime you work on a babies feet, remember they are very small and tender....do it very gently....But, keep rubbing his little feet gently I know it works.
You are a good mother. And everybody gets frustated from time to time.

Karen said...

Baby whisperer indeed! I'm impressed.

And don't worry about forgeting that he can't see. I think that's actually a good thing. It means you see him as a regular person, not as somehow less because of his disability. The more you think of him as just a regular person, the more likely it will be that he will grow up thinking of himself as a regular person. It's exactly like what you said about being calm so that you can help. Your seeing him as normal and fine will help him learn to be normal and fine, and not see himself as some helpless victim (which he most certainly is not!).

Buttercup said...

I work with someone who has been totally blind since birth -- he's in his 50s now. We've worked together for the last 15 years. When we first started working together I said good night to him one evening and added, "See you tomorrow." I felt really crummy and apologized. He reminded me that is what he says, too, and felt that it was just normal conversation. By the way, he has three degrees, is a manager in a large government agency and is married and has two grown children and is a great guy and good to work with.